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Question : After 12 years, my wife still doesn't realize her sister doesn'e like me...?
I've always had a bad relationship with my wife's older sister & her husband. I met them when I was 18 and they were 30, and they immediately made assumptions about me; they assumed I liked to party and drink & since they had a baby and were almost ten years older they felt we wouldn't have anything in common, so they pretty much dismissed me...even making it kind of difficult for me to feel part of the family.For the record, I was a boring kid; I was in college & working part-time at a grocery store, and played basketball and videogames, and spent my weekends working or at my sister's.The thing is my older sister is the same age as my wife's older sister, and my brother-in-law is 20 years older than me, and they've always had a great relationship with my wife. In fact we go on vacation together, and we bought two campers & a lot at a campground and spend most weekends together in the summer.The problem is my wife wants that type of relationship with her older sister, only it's obvious that's never going to happen. To this day (I'm 32 now) they go out of their way to not speak to me...Example:Just this past year their kids took interest in guitars – I play the guitar & give lessons to kids at my family's music store. Being that they know NOTHING about guitars, you'd think at the very least they might email me and asked for advice, at which point I would have given them a generous discount since (like it or not) they're my family. But no, they go somewhere else, and a guitar (keyword:) salesman sells them an expensive electric guitar & amp that is suitable for an adult, not an 8 year old. It's too heavy & too big so even if the kid could lift it, he couldn't get his hand around the neck to learn chords. In the end they'd rather waste a $1,000 than speak to me.Things like that happen all of the time.I hate to say it but it is what it is, and while I'm always open to things improving...at this point 12+ years later I just don't see it. My question is how do I handle this with my wife? I understand she sees our relationship with my sister and wants that with her own family, but how much more obvious could it be that it isn't going to happen? What do I do?
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You need to communicate this to your wife. Then you need to keep trying to get them to like you. You know it would make your wife really happy and you seem smart enough to make it happen. It's easy, just figure out what it is about them that you do like and only focus on that. They'll like you bc you like something about them. All my sisters in law hated me initially but today they like me a lot....well I'm still working on one.
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Question : Do you feel comfortable leaving your toddler around breakables?
I'm not implying anything by asking this because I know first hand that two kids born of the same parents and raised the same way can be complete opposites, but have you ever had a toddler (1, 2, 3 years old) who you never needed to take CD's away from, or movies, or be afraid to leave them alone with vases on the table, or never had to be uncomfortable taking them to a store or to a person's home for fear they'd be into everything?My first born was like that, which is why I ask. Even at just a year and a half she'd frequently play beside my CD rack and I never had to worry she's try pulling them out or destroying them....(My second isn't old enough to know for sure but I'd put a million dollar bet that come the next few years she'll be the kid we won't be able to take down the baby proofing any time soon, and even have to amp it up to the ninth degree just to spare us the destruction of our entire home, lol.)* trust ME...she won't be putting deep scratches in them. I love when people think they know your kids better then you do. just because your 3 kids were hellians doesn't mean everyone's are, lady. Did you every consider that never giving a kid the opportunity to learn not to scratch a cd is likely a sure fire way of ensuring they WILL scratch them once they find one? Logic. right there. Unless your kid IS a naturally destructive child try working WITH them from the beginning to train them not to do stuff. because if they never have the opportunity to learn not to, they're sure to be into mischief if they stumble into something.
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I have accepted that my daughter will ruin things at some point, usually unintentionally. If it's so precious that I can't bare to lose it then it's already been tucked away. That's not to say everything's been put away - there's lots of stuff out she can break and sometimes even will. She's autistic and needs to learn and I have accepted that. I'm not very attached to material possessions anyway and know everything will need to be replaced or at least retired at some point. We have a 42" LCD TV that we joke often it's a miracle she hasn't broken yet. So long as she doesn't hurt herself, and she doesn't somehow manage to find the one and only porcelain doll that is dear to me (which is on the top shelf in a spare room) how can you get upset? I do take a different attitude in other peoples' homes though. Our Mother-In-Law has a cluttered place but for the most part has the same philosophy. Obviously we're going to redirect attention where we can but sometimes the inevitable happens and there's no need to get upset. If it was that important it wouldn't be out in the living room when all the grandkids are coming over anyway. But not every person thinks like that. If they have too many valuables they are very attached to in their homes and don't want to try to make a kid-safe area then there have been times where I've cut visit short or just invited them to our house instead.
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Question : What are you getting your kids for christmas?? This is what my kids asked for.?
NO i am not getting all these because it would be a lot of money!Shayne (16 male): 2005 Mustang Coupe black with 2 white Pin Stripes, mini fridge, guitar and amp, abercrombie&fitch clothes, signed the NY Yankees signed baseball by Jeter, and shoes.Blaine (16 male): 2005 Mustang Coupe white with 2 blue Pin Stripes, mini fridge, drums, abercrombie and fitch clothes, abercrombie&fitch clothes, Signed football by the Giants, and shoes.Alexis (4 female) Dora stuff, Handy Manny tool set, kitchen, barbie, barbie car, princess clothes and accessories, Icarly Sam remote and microphone, hannah montana guitar, hannah montana the movie.Sean (4 month male): baby toys, books, clothes, blankets and shoes.What do your kids want?? Oh and i am not getting all these things because that is wayy to expensive!
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i dont have any kids ( im only 16) Honestally all i want for christmas is a great holiday season with my family ( which is a given we always have a blast) and snow on christmas. Im not really materialistic at all. My sister (10 yrs old) wants the Breaking dawn book and a great holiday season with our family ( as i said above) i personally would not get your 16 year olds a car like that. in my school parking there has been so many accidents( thank goodness no one has hit my car! it has no dents and i tend to keep it that way.( i have a 2004 bright yellow bug :D ))and LOTS of guys race in the parking lot. i would start them off with a different car. :) Merry Christmas :)
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Question : Acoustic vs. Electric???
I started playing guitar earlier this week and I'm hooked, can't get enough! Right now I have a cheap beginner guitar that's for little kids and is far too small for me. I was thinking of getting a better one and can't decide between electric and acoustic.-I've heard both are about the same for beginners-I more want to play like pop rock songs mostly so was thinking electric-On a little bit of a budget, but if electric is better for me, that'd be worth it.-Saw a baby 4x4 inch amp for $25, I don't plan to be in a band-I heard it's harder to play acoustic, and I want to be as good as I can be-I have the little acoustic if I NEED to play acoustic so not even sure if I should get another bigger one...I'm so lostI'm 16 and NO idea which one to get, is there anything I'm missing?? Any suggestions?? I've been playing for a few days and already know most basic chords and most notes and their strings from the staff, so progressing relatively quickly.I don't care about learning, I always learn by playing on the hardest and so it seems easy to play slightly easier ones
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Go to musicansfriend.com they have good deals. Why not get one that is a combo,all in one.
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Question : Back to School...whoopity freakin doo!?
Alrighty...so it's time to get the kids back to school! Both of my siblings (who live with me full time) will be in high school this year, one is a Senior, the other a Freshman. We managed just fine last year...but I am currently 23 weeks pregnant and hoping to amp up the organization this year to help all of us (but especially me...lol) maintain productivity and sanity.Anyone have any kick-bang suggestions on how to stay organized, or have any good scheduling/organizational tips and tricks? We already have a chore chart, but I'm hoping to get some good ideas to make things flow well...especially as we get closer to the baby coming.Thanks!!
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the chore chart is a great idea, also try having a free time chart were your kids can write down THEIR schedule of the week e.g if they have any sports. you could also have a treat chart but maybe their too old for that lol.just try organizing the kids school clothes,stationary and stuff because it might be too late after the baby comes X)hope i helped x
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Question : Car Seat and boosters, they're not my kids...?
This is long, bear with me.My sister watches my nieces 3 children, ages about 9, 7 and 5. Depending on the car they use, they sometimes use boosters and seats but since the 5 year old is pretty big they tend to think they're not necessary anymore. Okay, so my sister is having a baby and she's having a lot of trouble and could end up having the baby any moment. When the baby is born we will be watching the kids, possibly for a week, possibly for up to a month or more. My mom and I like to go places, and my mini-van can easily fit everyone, but the car seat question comes up. Both because I don't want my kids to get the wrong idea about car safety and because it's safer (not to mention the law in our area says they have to be in a booster or seat until 8.) So the problem. I KNOW they will not compensate or help me get a booster. They MAY provide us with a booster and seat while they're here, but I'm not counting on it since I'm not seeing them in boosters very often anymore. My niece is having a divorce with the father right now, and I don't know if he has the seats or if he'd be willing to let someone else use them. He also has a very aggressive nature towards seats and I don't know if the seat would be safe anyway.I DO have an old Britax that my daughter can't ride backwards in because of the crotch belt being too short for her and having to be in the forward facing position. One of them should fit in that one (it goes up to 63lbs) and then I don't have anyone using the unsafe lap-belt in the back. I'm pretty sure there are head-rests on the back bench so a basic no-back booster is an option and more affordable.So the Evenflo Big Kid AMP got the 'best bet' for a booster seat a couple of years ago by the IIHS and is on sale for about $25. I've never been pulled over but if I was with these kids then I could be cited for breaking the law since anyone under 8 must be in a booster or carseat depending on age now (and you have to be 4+ for a booster, but they all are.) However, it's not like I'm planning on taking them a million places either, just to things like SAMS or COSTCO, the library or a playground, now and then, and we could just plan that around the days we don't have them. Except that we don't always KNOW the days we won't have them. And I could just leave my mom home with them, but she gets awfully tired watching them alone and I know everyone would like to get out now and then. My mom may be willing to pay for the booster herself since I have a seat for one of them and that's basically all we'd need but if she doesn't... that's about 1/2 our food budget for a week (but I would feel horrible if one of them was injured and a citation would cost more anyway. But yes, I feed my family of 4 on $60 a week so this isn't a small purchase.)So my question is, what would you do? There may be some arguing as well from kids who are used to not using any seats and me being a hard Aunty saying they don't have a choice. It could also cause some irritation from parents who don't agree with me (or the law) about boosters and such. (Let's face it, I'm a nutcase to them anyway since both my kids are rear-facing until 4 or 30lbs, and my daughter is 3 1/2 and is still rear-facing currently so I'm not joking.) Their kids complaining that I make them ride in a booster and when they asked why I explained the safety aspect or the legal aspect would basically be saying their parents are wrong.Would you just plan on leaving them home? Or would you just get the stupid booster?Aggressive towards seats = tossing them aside, refusing to use them, etc. I'm sure he's yelled at them. :P As far as worrying about what folks think, yes I do. They don't tend to leave kids over here because my parents are elderly, and my mom would like them over more often, but my dad has made everyone feel guilty for leaving their kids over at all so it sort of hurts her that she doesn't get to see them as often. How much time would I have saved by not asking the question? About 5 minutes. When you grow up, take a typing class.
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If I were you I'd go with a Harmony Lite Rider, commonly found for around $13.
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Question : What are you getting your kids for presents?? This is my list..?
Shayne(16 male): Mustang Coupe 2005 black with white pin stripes, some abercrombie&fitch clothes, an ipod touch, a new lap-top, video games, own mini fridge, nike shoes shox, a new tv, and drumsBlaine (16 male) White mustang coupe 2005 with blue pin stripes, abercrombie&fitch clothes, shoes, x-box, games, a new skateboard, PSP, guitar and amp, and a mini fridge.Alexis(4 female) dora the explorer computer game, barbie, hannah montana guitar and CD, a new swingset, a pink kitty, Handy Manny tool station, barbie car, a webkinz jr pink kitten, webkinz jr blue puppy, bulid a bear horse, clothes, cell phone, fur real horse, and dora stuff, and a play kitchenSean (4 month old) blankets, toys, diapers, clothes, baby stuffMe: clothes, and a massageHusband: izod shirts, computer, and a pool tableThis is what they want. I haven't bought much yet. What are you getting your kids?And out of my list which should i get??
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wow your getting them alot. Im 15 and i would love all of the stuff your getting Shayne and Blaine. So good job.
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Question : What are you getting your kids?? This is what my kids asked for...?
NO i am not getting all these because it would be a lot of money!Shayne (16 male): 2005 Mustang Coupe black with 2 white Pin Stripes, mini fridge, guitar and amp, abercrombie&fitch clothes, signed the NY Yankees signed baseball by Jeter, and shoes.Blaine (16 male): 2005 Mustang Coupe white with 2 blue Pin Stripes, mini fridge, drums, abercrombie and fitch clothes, abercrombie&fitch clothes, Signed football by the Giants, and shoes.Alexis (4 female) Dora stuff, Handy Manny tool set, kitchen, barbie, barbie car, princess clothes and accessories, Icarly Sam remote and microphone, hannah montana guitar, hannah montana the movie.Sean (4 month male): baby toys, books, clothes, blankets and shoes.What do your kids want?? Oh and i am not getting all these things because that is wayy to expensive!
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my 11 yr old daughter wants her own digital purple camera, clothes, meez cards, Bop it game, Britney perfume and 2 webkinz..she will be getting all that plus a little more! I want to get her the crayola color dome, i think she will like it. (Better save the receipt..lol) My son is 3 and wants everything he sees on T.V. so far, i got him rocky the robot truck and the Imaginext dragon world fortress and i am also, planning on getting him a basketball adjustable hoop, Bat cave by fisher price, spongebob silly talk plush and the hot wheels custom color shop plus whatever else i may think he will like and it will last.
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Question : N through Z; Even MORE unfortunate names from the "baby name announcements"?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091101102207AAsxaLE&r=whttp://answers.yahoo.com/questi on/index;_ylt=ApWCfSxAA8ZvElXGCJyfA8vsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091101094801AAziqMIFor your cringing pleasure:Natalyah MersadeNekoda Mathew >> a weird mix of Neko and DakotaPortia >> it means pigRazjah' DaeRhapsody LynnRhyne Layne Beate >> no.Ridgelyn ChristopherRussell LivingstoneRylynn MarieSatya BluebellSdgsdf Sdgafg >> http://www.newbabynews.net/hospitals/gtf11/public/showBaby.pl?babyID=h11-6851 great baby; nice fingersShilling Gabriella >> Why name your kid after old money? You might as well just name it One Million Dollars.Skyler TanaskitSpur LanzingTaeben HunterTaylee MarieTiara >> and the mother's called WingTraetyn Adam >> sounds like traitorTwyla RoseVennessa Ninivah MagnoliaWellington Daniel >> Wellington is a place, a type of boot and a dish containing beef. Not a name.Zachary Shake Jackson >> Shake?Zariyia Mo'Nae >> Show me the Mo'Nae!
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I love the Sdsdakjdsfha it looks like he just banged on the keyboard. THIS IS WHY THERE SHOULD BE SOME NAMING LAWS.
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Question : Whats worse for you, Pepsi or energy drinks?
I'm going to be living with my dad during school. Moving out of my moms house. My dad refuses to buy bottled water, for some odd reason, hes against water, he hates the taste of it. >.< We cant drink from the tap. He buys so much pepsi, and hes the reason im addicted to pepsi. [theres pictures in my baby alblum of me, about 2 years of age, drinking pepsi. its bad for kids, WHY give it to them at such a young age???] I've tried to quit drinking it before, but ive always failed. This time i really want to, but he only buys pepsi, and energy drinks. [Amp, not monster.] So i was wondering whats worse for your body, amp? or pepsi?oh, and he doesnt like coke either, he wont buy that either.if i drink pepsi, its about 4 cans a day, maybe even 5, thats how bad it is. If its Amp, its about 1 can a day, maybe one and a half. [Pepsi cans are 1 serving size, Amp cans are 2.]Sugars:Just checked the cans...29g in a two serving sized can.and in pepsi...41g in a one serving size can.also, another thing...i heard that most vegans and vegetarians [like me] dont get their vitamins that come from meat...i heard that vitamin b12 was very important for you, and it was in meat.I see it on the back of most energgy drinks.i see its more then the daily serving size i found at...http://www.vrg.org/nutrition/b12.htm#need
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your dad is a nut crack he needs to go to a phyciastrist as soon as possibleand i would rather drink soda but i LOVE energy drinks
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